How to Figure Out What You Want in a Man

If there's one thing girls prioritize over anything, it's having a boyfriend. Some girls act as if they cannot live without a man in their lives, while others claim to be independent enough not to rely on a man as a source of their future happiness. However, what all of these girls have in common, despite what they tell themselves, is a simple truth: they all want a boyfriend. All girls want to feel wanted and though this may seem vastly superficial, having a boyfriend is the ultimate reassurance that they are indeed worth something. For this reason, many girls find themselves settling for less-than-perfect men just so they can say they have a boyfriend. If you're one of those girls, STOP. Stop settling for guys that aren't worth your time. Stop dissolving your morals or making excuses for men just because you're scared of being alone. It will come back and bite you in the ass, trust me. No matter how hard you try, these guys are not going to change and you'll end up being the one left in the dust, alone and heartbroken.

If I scared you, that was my intention. You need to sit down, reevaluate your life and your needs (through this wonderful list I am so kindly providing you with), and only THEN should you make yourself available to the advances of appropriate men.

1. Morals
   I cannot even count number of times I've seen girls completely go back on everything they've said and believed when a man so much as smiles as them. You know what is right and what is wrong and you might as well smack yourself in the face if you throw all of that away for a guy. If you're against underage drinking, don't date someone who does it. If you don't like guys who smoke, don't date a smoker. It's literally as easy as that. A lot of girls like to blame the infamous 'gray area' for all their problems but there is NO such thing. If you feel uncomfortable in any way, don't let yourself be okay with it.
   
2. Looks
   Let's be superficial for a second. I'm sure you've heard all that 'love is blind' bullshit, and I'm going to be real with you. It's not true. When you first meet someone, you judge them based on their looks. People who disagree are lying to themselves. If a guy comes up to you at a party and he's short and ugly, in WHAT universe are you going to start making out with him because he has a good personality? Yeah, that's what I thought. Our entire society runs on appearances. Good-looking people get farther in life than ugly people do. It's a proven fact (at least I think so). So why in the world would you settle for a guy that isn't as attractive as you are? You're beautiful so stop fishing for guys that are beneath you.
   
3. Future
   I don't care if you want to be the CEO of Bank of America or a stripper in Amsterdam. If your man isn't down with that, ditch him. Who is he to dictate what your future is going to be like? Why would you let him try to change you or criticize your goals? You do you and don't worry about anyone else.
   
4. Sex
   I'm going to be brief here: you're probably going to have sex, or not, depending on your beliefs (see: morals). It's imperative that you establish where you stand on this topic before you get serious with anyone. If you don't want to have sex with anyone before marriage, that's cool. Make sure that the man feels the same way. If he doesn't have the same beliefs but says that he will be okay with not having sex until marriage, that's cool, too. But, if he starts pressuring you, dump his horny ass. If in any case, your man is making you feel uncomfortable in bed, you DON'T have to put up with it. Let him know or leave him.

Obviously there are more non-negotiables but it's up to you to decide which ones fit your life the best. Figure out what you want and then DON'T go back on it. There are plenty of men out there and it's up to you to separate the losers from the right ones. If you don't respect yourself, how do you expect a man to respect you?